Postmodern Woman Anarchy…
You’re a blogger. One of the millions who don’t make money. But slowly your work grows a following. People appreciate what you write, guest bloggers recognise that your blog might get them some...
View ArticleShiny New Things
So I got invited to speak at the Poly Konferens in September over in Stockholm. I’ll be speaking about the activity of the organization I chair – the National Association of Polyamory (Polyforeningen)...
View ArticleOn This Morning’s sofa…
My amazing publicity agent organised a spot for me tomorrow to promote The Husband Swap on a British telly programme – ITV’s This Morning – hosted by Philip Schofield and Amanda Holden. I’m terrified....
View ArticleThe Perfect Excuse to Watch Movies… And Call it Work.
Self-esteem is a tricky beast and to my mind, less of a constant, more of an ever changing variable. No sooner do I feel confident in my self-worth than the universe gives me a swift karmic kick in the...
View ArticleGod Is An Author
I have a delicious secret. I am building a universe. I wonder whether Terry Pratchett, JK Rowling, Grant Morrison felt as I do, a little terrified, a little in awe of their dreams and sometimes...
View ArticleMurder Most Instinctive
In a terrible story I once read about the 2011 tsunami, a mother was forced to make a choice as she clung to a tree with her two children. She wasn’t strong enough to hold onto them both. She made her...
View ArticleHating my Book Babies
I’ve never had any patience with the whole tortured artist thing. And now I am one. But as it turns out torture isn’t exactly the right word, it’s more like ‘itchy’ (but ‘the itchy artist’ doesn’t...
View ArticleThe Game Changer by Franklin Veaux ~ A Trail Through The Trackless Wilderness
I’m so lucky in so many ways. That I am born in a progressive developed country. That I’ve been able to have children I wanted. That my life is abundant. And lucky, that others like Franklin Veaux have...
View ArticleThe Stud by Jackie Collins – A Lesson In How Far We Go To Survive
Back in the days I didn’t understand what was going on when I read Jackie Collins description of a boy’s hand under his girlfriend’s skirt, I spent my holidays shuttling back and forth between my...
View ArticleFlawed Public Figures
I recently reviewed a new book by Franklin Veaux on a polyamorous relationship he’s named The Game Changer. He’s a relatively well known blogger in polyamorous circles and there’s no doubt that from...
View ArticleHelp! Her Partner Isn’t Poly-Friendly
Dear Louloria, I think I’m running into a situation where I think I need to break up a relationship, because the living situation of my love and her partner isn’t poly-friendly. I’m minimized when...
View ArticleHelp! Why do the guys I date disappear?
Dear Louloria, The question that has been burning for me for a while, is why guys “disappear”? Like things seem awesome, then they literally won’t respond to texts, emails and just go “b-bye”. It’s...
View ArticleHelp! How do I introduce someone new to Polyamory?
Dear Louloria, I’ve met someone who hasn’t heard of poly before. What’s a good way to introduce them? What red flags are there that they’re not accepting it really, but just going along? Thanks – Mr....
View ArticleHelp! I’m dating a vegan, but I eat meat and wear leather
Dear Louloria, Help! I’m dating a vegan, but I eat meat and wear leather. How do we resolve this philosophical difference? – Mr. MeatLover Dear Mr. ML, I would suggest that seeking a resolution per se,...
View ArticleHelp! My British Partner Can’t Say No
Dear Louloria, I’m an American dating a Brit and I don’t understand why she can’t come right out and tell me what she wants. One of the most important things in polyamory is the ability to state...
View ArticleHelp! Will This Relationship Last?
Dear Louloria, My wife and I have been seeing another couple we quite like. We’re all very aware of poly; we met through a poly discussion group. By discussion and agreement it hasn’t become sexual...
View ArticleDesigner Relationships by Michaels & Johnson – Becoming The Author of Your...
There is little else more fun than being the author of your own life and whilst I adore Tolkien, he reserved his authorship for elves, hobbits and wizards. As much of a stupendous achievement Lord of...
View ArticleHelp! I’m polyamorous but can only have sex with one
Dear Louloria, I’ve identified as polyamorous for many years, and do indeed love many. But even if I love many – you know, the soul thrilling, intimate, vulnerable kind – I have recognised that...
View ArticleHelp! My Metamour Doesn’t Communicate Her Concerns
Dear Louloria, My girlfriend has started dating another girl who is sweet and funny but was previously monogamous. I have no issue with her, but she is not used to communicating about her emotions and...
View ArticleHelp! Why Are Polyamorous People So Ugly?
Dear Louloria, I got into polyamory via a glamorous life of swinging, but my wife and I found that unconnected sex didn’t do it for us and we started to fall for another couple. Sadly they felt that...
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