Help! Her Crippling Anxiety Prevents Me From Exploring Polyamory
Dear Louloria, My wife and I married young and lived a monogamous lifestyle for 15 years. Over the last few years we’ve had several polyamorous experiences, initially due to her interest in it. But in...
View ArticleHelp! Am I abusive?
Dear Louloria, I read your response to Mr RealistNotOptimist with interest and foreboding. I am in an open relationship with my partner. I suffer hugely from anxiety, and although I try to take full...
View ArticleHelp! Is it Wrong to Use Polyamory Just to Get Sex?
Dear Louloria They say that polyamory isn’t ‘just about the sex’, and ‘people aren’t just ‘needs fulfilment machines’, but the truth is that I have a very high sex drive and my husband doesn’t. I need...
View ArticleHelp! My Poly-Xmas Was Emotionally Exhausting
Dear Louloria, I’m in an MMF triad and very happy with my life – normally. But this Christmas and NY, which is our first proper holidays where everyone is acknowledged by all our families, has been...
View ArticleHelp! Should Our Power Exchange Couple Date As A Couple?
Dear Louloria, My husband is very poly and has no jealousy issues. I am situationally poly, in that it is not an absolute necessity to me. My questions arises in that we are a power exchange couple. My...
View ArticleHelp! When should I introduce my partner to my kids?
Dear Louloria, I’ve recently started dating again now that maternity has finished and my daughter has started pre-school. I’ve met someone who I think could be a potential partner. I agreed with my...
View ArticleHelp! Is my Daughter Polyamorous or Mentally Ill?
Dear Louloria, My 27 year old daughter has recently come out as polyamorous. I’m a fairly open minded Mum but I’ve been her sole parent since she was eight, when I left her emotionally (occasionally...
View ArticleHelp! How Can I Protect My Kid from being bullied because of my Relationship...
Dear Louloria, So far I’ve been pretty lucky – able to mostly insulate my son from changes with partners (I learned that lesson when he was mostly too young to remember, at least). And we’re 90% out,...
View ArticleHelp! What Should I Look for in a New Partner?
Dear Louloria, I’m married, but after opening our marriage it seems that we no longer have that much of a connection or at least only very slight. We have kids, so I’ve tried really hard to keep the...
View ArticleHelp! How Can I Help My Abusive Partner?
Dear Louloria, I’ve lived with a man for several years, and about a year ago we decided to “go poly”. It was the first time I realized that I didn’t have to put all my energy and effort into one other...
View ArticleHelp! Two Partners And No Sex?
Dear Louloria I married my husband twenty years ago. But the sex in our relationship was always problematic, and although we had kids, my husband discovered that he was asexual, but since everything...
View ArticleHelp! Do I Lie to My Teenage Son About Being Open?
Dear Louloria, After having been in an “open” relationship with my wife for the past 4.5 years but never had another relationship per se, I have now had a girlfriend for the past 4 months. Originally...
View ArticleHelp! Am I a Cheater or Am I Polyamorous?
Dear Louloria Recently I heard about polyamory. I’d heard of open relationships of course, but I did not know it had a name or what polyamorous really meant. My question is that I do not know if I am....
View ArticleHelp! My Boyfriend and His Primary girlfriend Are Falling Apart
Dear Louloria, I have been a secondary partner in my poly relationship. Recently my boyfriend and his girlfriend have been having a lot of relationship issues. The rift between them has caused a shift...
View ArticleHelp! Why Do My Exes Go Out With Women Exactly Like Me
Dear Louloria, I am experiencing a pattern in my relationships that I would like some insight into please. When my relationships come to an end, my exes choose a very similar woman to me as their next...
View ArticleAsk Me About Polyamory by Kimchi Cuddles AKA The Splendid Tikva Wolf
Present day. The bleed between high culture and popular culture grows ever more blurry, opinion and news is diffused via social media as opposed to authorised broadcasting channels, and for better or...
View ArticleHelp! Does Jealousy Mimic Childhood Relationships?
The amount of jealousy we feel corresponds to the style of attachment we have; scientists agree that adult attachment is likely to mimic childhood attachment, even if they currently disagree about the...
View ArticleHelp! How do I deal with Sexual Fantasies About My Mother?
My advice in all cases is to look at your experiences separately in order to better trace their impacts, before aggregating them to see how they interplay.
View ArticleHelp! I’m a bi-woman crushing on a het-woman
You can want to be ethical, strive towards being ethical and still behave unethically. It's called being human!
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