When Hurt Becomes Abuse and The ‘Hurt’ Matrix
Many abuse victims like me, have also demonstrated the same behaviours which can be tagged as emotionally abusive. Yet they are not abusers themselves. Why? At what point does hurt become abuse?
View ArticleSex-Positivity for Babies
For all we want to help our children to be hygienic, in the long term at least making the ‘dirt can be fun’ narrative accessible to them, will later greatly help their appreciation of the often messy...
View ArticleValue Beyond Gold
Oh, Edmund… can it be true? That I hold here, in my mortal hand, a nugget of purest Green? – Lord Percy Percy, Blackadder II Lord Percy believed in the value of the Green he made. He believed in the...
View ArticleTrump, Weltschmertz and Me
Last night as I laughed with people who are dear to me, we were happy and uplifted. But the evening turned ugly when one of them showed me a facebook feed adorned with sexualized ass, guns, cars and...
View ArticleHumans are pre-programmed to objectify. So how can we help it?
Across the world, the dark is rising. And at this point of the story, I always thought that I’d be a resistance fighter. One of those who fought against evil at the cost of her own life. But my misty...
View ArticleAre We Allowed to Objectify Kim Kardashian’s Butt?
When Kim broke the internet with her butt shot, war broke out over whether what she’d done was a feminist act in itself and therefore a good role model for young girls, or whether she’d done untold...
View ArticleThe Emotional Objectification of Our Children
(or How Trump was created) My son once had a tantrum because I contradicted his assertion that a doll from daycare was his and would therefore be coming home with us. I replied calmly, ‘The doll is not...
View ArticleAre you a Burning Woman?
It took me years to admit that my sphere of knowledge was relatively minute and many more to lose my shame about it. Where once I paid lip service to humility believing it to be a route to social...
View ArticleSacrificing integrity for the greater good. But what greater good is there...
For the last ten years I have grown to be a person with edges and that has meant that I’ve lost relationships. I’ve found some values in my core that many find difficult to live with, even though...
View ArticleTo Those Who Advise Compassion for Trump Supporters
How could it happen that Trump, a man so ignorant, so bigoted and who demonstrates such vile behaviors could win a presidency? How has he garnered such support? More importantly, where do we go from...
View ArticleEthics of Family Trumps Utilitarianism
As Trump becomes president elect, I do not trust our so-called utilitarian system and neither do many of my friends. I no longer believe in the validity of utilitarian ethics to counteract our humanity...
View ArticleWhen Hurt Becomes Abuse and The Dimensions of ‘Hurt’
Many abuse victims like me, have also demonstrated the same behaviours which can be tagged as emotionally abusive. Yet they are not abusers themselves. Why? At what point does hurt become abuse?
View ArticleRacism stigma furthers the Racist Agenda in Sweden
One reason why this immigration was considered successful had nothing to do with Sweden's ability to integrate immigrants; only that the type of immigrants arriving were more easily 'integrate-able' as...
View ArticleNote to Self
Your limits are otherwise known as your boundaries, they're what you use to protect your power, to govern it responsibly. They're what allows you to interact healthily with others.
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A look at “The Polyamorous Home”
After years of studying and practising polyamory, very few new books on the subject pique my interest. There are many more I disagree with. So I was delighted by my US colleague Jess Mahler’s newest...
View ArticleFighting our reptilian racist instincts
In-groups are formed by what we consider to be 'relevant' familiarity. Children, and even adults, process most of our information visually which means that varying skin tones might be not only the...
View ArticleMy Privilege is Uncomfortable
My sister-in-arms is poor. A minority of minorities. A person of colour. I am not. She has a powerful voice which others try to suppress at every turn. She lives on the other side of the world, and her...
View ArticleEthics of Family Screws Democracy
We attach to those of our ilk, beyond rationality. And few of us have enough self-awareness to overcome it. The law and our systems were designed to counteract this; 'the law is reason free from...
View ArticleWhy I’m solo-polyamorous but living in a community
After many such processing sessions and respective conclusions, I've come to a grand, meta conclusion. Whilst I might long for multiple connections, I function better alone. I learned some years ago...
View ArticleCall to Action: Use Psychology to end Trump Presidency
There's only one way to break a someone who is living in an extreme fantasy world, but it means risking the mind of the person themselves. It is tantamount to throwing the baby away with the bathwater....
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