What my White Privilege Says About Punching Nazis
For people of colour, white ethics do not promote their survival--it only promotes white people's survival and usually at the expense of theirs. People of colour have not been allowed voice, still...
View ArticleThe Silencing of the Disenfranchised European Progressive
There could be many potential reasons not least that to become a overseas voter is a bureaucratic nightmare, especially for those like me who left before voting age. When I eventually found the energy...
View ArticleQ: What’s The Difference between A Narcissist And a Privileged Asshole?
Pathologizing Trump-like behaviour as opposed to his alleged condition, facilitates a dangerous denial and conflation. If someone is clinically diagnosed with a mental disorder then it creates distance...
View ArticlePiano theme one
The first theme has landed. Still not sure what final form it will take or what arrangement will accompany it but here it is in its raw form. Very easy to play. In fact if anyone would like to revisit...
View ArticleThe Psychology Behind Why Violence is used to Counter Fascism
Understandably, those whom fascists consider less deserving of rights and opportunity do not take their prospective dehumanization lying down. But the course of your chosen response in the fight...
View ArticleThe Essential Ingredient in Transitioning Open Relationships is…
I sincerely believe we've achieved what we've achieved because our relationship was already open and has been since its inception. Our relationship was open and sexual. It is still open but non-sexual....
View ArticleThe Cowardice of the White Woman
Yet when you have learned that the best, and almost exclusively only way to survive is by diminishing yourself in order to support those in power--mainly white men--it is paralysing and seemingly...
View ArticleThe Violent Birth of The Awareness Baby
Trump wants to make America great again, Theresa May wants to take Britain out of Europe. What they mean is that they want to return to a simpler more ignorant time, one where white people could...
View ArticleThe Gift of Amorality and Alcohol in Dark Times
But the loss of religion, shame and guilt left me without morals. Quite by chance, I found that I was amoral by choice. The post The Gift of Amorality and Alcohol in Dark Times appeared first on The...
View ArticleJourney Through Theoretical Whiteness
I don't hide my white privilege but many of my friends don't know that my Greek-American father wasn't considered white as a young man. But they don't tend to ask because I look utterly white, a...
View ArticleThe Rapist in the Mirror
The powerful emotional link that binds families who grow up together often manifests itself in curious ways when adult adoptees meet their biological families. Yet as common as it is, few want to touch...
View Article“But I Can Still Cook!”
“If you’re sick,” she said, “that means you should be in bed.” That sounded right. If I could get up, then I must be able to go to school. But that day, I was in a state of dizzy where I couldn’t walk....
View ArticleTwelvemonth
According to the Oxford English Dictionary, twelvemonth is an archaic noun meaning “a year”. As any writer or musician will tell you, the relevance of things happening around you increases the further...
View ArticleNo Such Thing As Legitimate Democracy in the U.K. & U.S.
If people only have a choice between evils--be it republicans or democrats, leave or remain, tories, labour lib-dems etc. --then those who don't want any of them are coerced into making a choice they...
View ArticleMithridatism and the Validity of White Guilt
Like Mithridates, the ancient Greek King who--legend has it--ingested small amounts of poison to create immunity, it is the art of swallowing what we hate little by little, of being formed by it,...
View ArticleWhy Black Lives Matter even to Self-Interested White Women
Privileged white woman pain is more gradual and less dramatic than that experienced by intersectional minorities. It is insidious. Kind of like bonsai trees, white women have the innate capacity to...
View ArticleIs a Memoir the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth?
Because personal truth does change over time as perspective is added. That you understood the truth of your motivations at one time for a particular decision, does not make it necessarily or wholly...
View ArticleWhite Fragility and the path to White Depression
Gone are the days when I positively affirmed every day in the shower, and shared uplifting memes. Now I see these past behaviours as tragic extent of mine and others' unawareness. I thought if I...
View ArticleTime, the Cost of Consent and Parallel Polyamory
Juggling time is a huge deal in a open relationship if the type of open relationship you have means investing in every relationship you develop. And it's not only in your intimate relationships, it's...
View ArticleHarry Potter Normalizes Abuse
Maybe it's my depression that twists a rainbow world into shades of grey. Or maybe the Order of the Phoenix really is a minefield riddled with CPTSD. In fact it's so bloody obvious that my suspension...
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